Friday, April 16, 2010

Online Dating, Break Up... Stalking?!?

Hello everyone.





I have a bit of a problem.





I am 17 years old, and have been online seeing a 19 year old boy for the past few months. We have recently broken up because of his being overly controlling, possessive, and especially angry, individual. (signs only showed up after dating and I felt it was just a rough patch, but that seems to be his personality and it never went away. causing me much anxiety and unneeded stress)





So I have broke things up. He of course has my address, since we would write to each other. I live in Canada, and he lives in the USA.


* He is a very angry person, and obsessive with me, to the point he stalks many of the places I go online.. which makes me feel paranoid. I have told him this.





The worry I have is that now, after breaking up, with his personality traits in mind.. I fear that he might want to hurt me or my family out of anger (he has my address and telephone number.)





I've alsogone out of my way to make sure that all my accounts online were deleted

Online Dating, Break Up... Stalking?!?
The first and last thing you need to do is defuse the situation.





Do not fuel his obsession. If you haven't done it already, tell him you are cutting off all communication, and if he tries to get in contact with you again, you will call the police. Then don't make any kind of contact with him again, no matter how crude or obsessive he gets. If you even email him or IM him or whatever, you have given him fuel to get respond. Even using this medium is in-directly talking to him. Does he know your avatar and username? Will he be reading this question? If so, you will be fueling him.





You have to not have any kind of contact with him. Don't do it. No matter what. He'll finally get bored and move on. This happens in about 88% of cases.





For the rare 12%, it could turn dangerous. Tell everyone you know about the situation, parents etc. and if he shows up at your home, then he has taken it up a notch and its now time to go to the authorities.





Don't worry about hurting his feelings, people that have anger issues often use this to their advantage and will make you feel bad in order to get the upper hand. They will also use conflict, because most of us try to avoid any conflict.
Reply:man, idk, if its really that serious, maybe you should get a restraining order, but then again, that might not do anything. talk to him, ask him about it maybe. or move. good luck :)


Dating via Online...I met this guy...?

I met this guy via online dating and he's asked me out to a new restaurant that is located in New Harlem, called The Den. Anyone been to this place? Do you think this is an okay place for a date, be as though I've met him through online or should it be more of a coffee house meet and greet? All advice and comments appreciated. By the way, neither of us live in NY, it was just a mutual agreement to meet there since he stays there occassionally for work.

Dating via Online...I met this guy...?
As long as it's a well-populated place and you meet separately, where you can leave in your own car. I met my fiance thru an online dating service and I loved doing it that way. Good luck to you!
Reply:I'd suggest going to a place you're familiar with, it will make you feel more comfortable, also make sure you go to a public place so there will be plenty of people around.
Reply:never been there but i would go if u could!!!





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Reply:He sounds married.
Reply:I would know nothing of that restaurant, for I do not reside near that area. I just wish to warn you to be careful. There is nothing wrong with online dating, but it is always important to be somewhat careful. There are people out there that are not exactly friendly, as we should all know. I am sure you can fend for yourself, but I still suggest running a background check, or something of that sort. Considering the fact that you are meeting him in a public place, you should be fine.





I went to their website. Here is the link: http://www.thedenharlem.com/main.html





It looks really nice.It says that they will be closed for three weeks starting Feb 26, 2008 prior to their 5 year anniversery celebration. They open again March 27. Looks like your date will be delayed...sorry
Reply:ask him if u can bring friends... if he says no... dont go... if he says yes bring ure friends... its harder to hurt someone (i aint sayin hes like this but jus incase..) wen they aint alone... jus be careful... u could make it like a double date with ure friends or something..

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Online dating dilemma?

A few months ago I joined an online dating site. I have met up with this guy twice, and were planning to meet again. We had spoken for months on MSN before we finally met.





I haven't told my family about him because its early days. This guy has told his folks about me but lied and told them we met in a bar.





Now its my turn to tell my parents but I do not wish to lie to them because if we ever got into a relationship, I know the truth will come out me met online. I really like him but I dont wish to start anything based on a lie.





Should I tell my my parents my own lie, as If i tell them the truth im sure they'd disprove. Or discontinue meeting this guy?


Is it sad meeting online? Were both young 22 year olds. All comments appriciated thanks.

Online dating dilemma?
There is no stigma now attached to on line dating. It's a very, very common way to meet people. What are your alternatives? The church? errr No. Night Clubs (they're all drunk usually), Pubs? (Ditto). Your parents, if they are supportive, will appreciate that you have taken the time and effort to get to know this person by MSN before actually meeting. I believe YOU are the problem in that YOU and only you find it sad to be dating online. But in reality what is the difference where you met? Would it be any better to tell your parents you met at a night club. No. Be proud of what you have done. Obviously you like him and he does you too. So don't start with a lie. Tell your parents the truth and I'm sure they will not see it the way you do.





Good Luck, Sweetie..
Reply:There's nothing to be ashamed about. I know plenty of people who date online. one of my friends met her husband that way. Just explain to them that you met through a legitimate dating service and you're happy!!! They will come around. Good luck!
Reply:i met my man on a phone chat line he never told his family how we met but my sis and mum no my dad dont cos its none of there buisness and its not relevent all the best x


p.s we are now married with 3 kids 5 yrs on
Reply:This is very controversial, some people are a bit embarrassed to let the world know they met online, others don't give a monkeys so I guess its all down to how comfortable you feel with it. If you get on well together then why would you want to stop seeing him. As for your parents, just tell them you met at (the first place you physically met him) then that wouldn't be a lie ... just not the whole truth! Also - be careful, it is still early days. Follow your gut instincts!
Reply:u should just tell it how it is... people meet on the internet all the time.
Reply:i think on line dating is great as long as you play safe ...i met my partner of dating direct..u shudnt have to lie to ya folks ..im sure if they see you happy and he treats u well they wont care where u met him ..good luck
Reply:It's not sad at all to meet someone online. Increasingly more and more young people are finding love and making connections this way - hardly surprising when so many of us use the Internet nearly every day. I was in the same situation as you once, although it was the other way around, I was tempted to lie about how we met and he was prepared to tell people we met online. Don't take his lie too personally, he perhaps feels embarrassed (not of you!) of how you met because maybe he's never had an online relationship before and has never "believed" in them so to speak. That was the case with me, anyway - I was always the kind of person to sneer at online relationships until I made a great connection with a guy I got to know in a chat room. And here we are, two years later, still together and now proud and grateful of how we met.





I think you should tell your parents the truth. Think about it: won't they be much more concerned for you if they find out you were lying? You're effectively saying to them "it's something to be worried about" by not being honest (at least from their parental perspective). Don't give up on your relationship because of his lie - it might well just be out of shyness and worry that his parents will rain on his parade by saying online relationships aren't the real deal. Parents are from another generation and they don't always understand how things work today - my parents were worried I'd get hurt but now they're happy for me because they see how happy I am and how strong my relationship is.





Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
Reply:Honesty rocks, keep it simple ok,, im telling you that you are in line with being honest,, keep it that way and if nature cant handle that then its problem,,, you are on the right track,, i know you have such a nice parent, they might say thing because they wanna protect you ,, you cannot be angry to them because of that, you have to tell them and follow your heart, i mean its your life, tell them because they have to accept the choice you make,,, i tell my family who am i going out with ,,why because its healthy,, it lets them know we are not doing any hanky panky with out lives,,,you must be asian !
Reply:Its not sad you met on the internet, But why lie to your family if you start now your whole relationship will be a lie.So its worth being up front from the start and your family should respect your decision at the end of the day, As you are both adults.
Reply:online dating isnt sad,and how cares wot your family thinks,ure 22yrs old,and he told his family first,eventho he lied,it shows hes serious about you,otherwise he wudnt ave told them at all
Reply:first you say you don't want to lie, then you ask if you should lie.





very confusing.
Reply:Tell them the truth. They may think it strange at first or even worry about the guy creep. Just tell them he's a great guy and it doesn't matter where or how you met. You could even ask if they think it would be better if it was some guy who picked you up in the bar.





I know a lot of people think it is strange to meet someone on line. That's partly because it so new and people don't understand it. It's also partly because it has gotten a bad rap in the media. They keep showing stories about some girl who meets some one on line and the guy is a stalker or rapist. I reality this doesn't happen any more then any other way of meeting a guy. It just gets ratings so that what they show on TV. They rarely show a story about a couple who met on line and are now happily married.
Reply:at 22 why do you need your parents approval.....?????


Hey online dating girls... I've got a question for you.?

Ok, so I gave this online dating thing a try and after dating 3 crappy blind dates I met someone really great. We've really have hit it off and have a great time together. We are around 3 weeks and 9 dates into our little fling. I know she is coming off 2 long term relationships and is enjoying playing the field a little. My question is... how long and how patient should I be about being exclusive? I haven't said anything, I'd really rather not rush her, but on the same token, i'd like to give us a real shot. How do you women feel about this situation? I new to this, so I'd love to hear your advice. Thank you!

Hey online dating girls... I've got a question for you.?
Ok, first of all I'm not an online dating girl... =)





Second, I AM a dating consultant who specializes in online dating.





The best thing that I can tell you is that you should enjoy being with the woman and let nature take its course. The truth of the matter is that she is most likely not ready if she hasn't brought the subject up. Truthfully, man or woman, anyone would be a little trigger-shy coming out of two long-term relationships that didn't work.





Besides, if you totally commit to her when she has not committed to you, then she has nothing to lose. Most relationships are realized when the person imagines their life without the company of a the other one. The saying "If you love it, set it free" exists solely because of this reason!





I'm not saying that you should break up with her at all! What I am saying is that you may want to talk to other women and get a feel for how she feels about it.





Don't do anything that you will regret, just simply talk to other women and see how they react to you, and how she reacts to them. As long as you keep this interaction innocent, you will not be doing anything wrong, and she will truly show how she feels about your relationship.





I tell people to chat with as many people that they can, and to utilize the online dating market as much as possible. You can find out a great deal about a person before you even get to the first date by using these services!





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Meet a few people on the site, and set up a few innocent dates where you are simply getting yourself out there and noticed. Your social skills will be the better for it, and both of your true feelings will surface in the long run!
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How to start an online dating site, or a profitable online business and be successful?

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How to start an online dating site, or a profitable online business and be successful?
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We are told that linking to casino sites is a bad thing, as they are often seen as spam sites, but I guess there are successful people doing that as well.





I think the online dating business is a good route to go, but not until you have that internet marketing knowledge base, and I wouldn't know where to direct you there anyway.





With this program, the cost to join is minimal, but the advertising costs can be expensive, but you only do what you can afford at your own pace. The great thing about the program is that is you get a fully customizable website built for you within 24hrs ready to take orders as soon as you sign up. This is an internet marketing, online money making type system, but the fabulous thing is that your site is yours, and is fully customizable. You can use the 30-day program to your advantage to learn exactly what it takes to market a business online, and then change your site to whatever you want it to be - online dating, casino, or whatever you want it to be. This program will show you what you need to do to be successful at owning and maintaining an online business.





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Online Dating: Detailed Answers Needed?

I'm a male college student, and I have been considering online dating recently. There seems to be nobody in my area who meets my moral standards or shares my interests. Maybe it's because I'm too serious (both about life in general and about relationships in particular), but there seems to be nobody who is morally or personally compatible with me. Therefore, I think I will try out online dating. I read about OKCupid and eHarmony, which are both free matchmaking sites. Are either of these a good idea for someone who is an intellectual, Christian, extremely conservative, looking for long-term relationships EXCLUSIVELY, and not flirty or looking for someone flirty? Also, it probably doesn't matter...but I'm 19. Even so, like I said, I'm having problems. It's not that I'm unattractive (TONS of girls think I'm "cute" or "adorable"), I'm not out of shape (I get plenty of activity), and I am not some freak (I have plenty of friends). That said, please give me some advice!

Online Dating: Detailed Answers Needed?
Well.. okay, you're probably ~best~ off looking for christian dating sites, since you'll find many more people with your same ideals on there. I personally don't really like those big matching sites, since.. well it's quite hard to find anyone of substance there. But, you might be lucky, who knows. My advise is to find a handful of sites that appeal to you, and use all of them. (I was on about 7-8 when I found the love of my life.)





I wish the best of luck to you!
Reply:I'm not a christian, so I didn't use any of them. http://www.christianpassions.c... and it is completely free. It's pretty easy, though, to just type up "christian dating sites" or "christian personals" and find a ton. You might have to sift through them to find some that are entirely free, however. Report It


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Is online dating is for real or it for fooling around??

cause i have a friend and she dating an online guy and he always sweet to her and say he will never cheat on her and her firend said that he fooling around with her and playing games with her and when she calls him he says no it not true i only dating you and what i think i should tell her about online dating??

Is online dating is for real or it for fooling around??
you have to be very careful because you dont know who she is talking to. for all you know, on the other end could be a crazy old woman who likes to murder people (or a man) anyhow, tell her not to lend any money to him because it could be a fraud.
Reply:online dating is what u make of it....


u cant really say youre a couple tho if u havent met one another face to face....


once u meet and find that it will work out for both parties being in a long distance relationship but seeing one another when they can then thats when youre dating....


just chatting online or on the telephone is just being friends...
Reply:OFCOURSE IT'S NOT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP!!! DUDE! PEOPLE JUST USE ONLINE DATING TO MESS AROUND AND HOPEFULLY FIND SOME TYPE OF IGNORANT PERSON TO GET LAID!!! TELL YOUR FRIEND NOT TO FALL FOR IT... IM SERIOUS!!!
Reply:Definitely fooling around.as far as i suppose 90% people on d net just fool the persons around and whn its the ques of dating-its really a bad game of online fooling..
Reply:fooling around i dont know how much you can accomplish by doing that!!
Reply:Ok! Try it your self ! I am answering your question and you dont know me! Lets meet up and converse ! see if its true