Online dating?

OK...Does this on line dating stuff really work? has anybody had any success with this?I am very leary about it and just was wondering if their is anybody that found this to work for them

Online dating?
it's the same as in real life...


The people are the same as in real life. You have to be careful about who you date in real life, too. And you will have the same success as you are having in real life. It's the same.
Reply:Ive been married for 3 years and I have two kids with an amazing, funny, sexy woman....yup met her on hot or not....of all the sites in the world.....I was 23 when I met her. Dont rely on it as your only source but dont cut it off completely
Reply:I've dated several guys I met online and I've never had any problems with anyone I've met. I was just careful about getting to know them via email and phone prior to agreeing to meet in person.
Reply:Mmmm it depends.. just try it!! Be honest ... I know some marriages' stories.. that started this way. I think we must take advantage of technology we have nowdays ..It´s a great mean of communication.. just don´t idealize the person ..try to chat online with her/his first ... in order to meet each other.


Good luck... but be careful... maybe you may find the love of your life ....
Reply:I think it's great if you approach it with care and are open minded. Be willing to accept the fact that the people you meet may not be Prince Charming off the bat.





My friend is currently in a relationship with a guy she met on Match.com and they've been having a great time. They've been together for almost a year. She's in her mid 30s and divorced, so it's kind of hard for her to meet people (we're in a small town and there aren't many fun places to out to). She's very happy!





I met my fiance online in a video game. We've been dating for 2 years. It's not a dating site, but hey... it just shows that people do have success by meeting people online.
Reply:Dangerous
Reply:I meet my boyfriend online so I guess it works. It wasnt on a dating site though. It was more like a friend site. and I wasnt looking to find someone but hey I did. Our relationship is okay. It has it's ups and downs like any other relationship but I cant complain.
Reply:My friend Johnson has got his lover at a dating site called millionairecupid.com. Seems it's quite a nice dating site.
Reply:the on-line dating stuff it is not seem to work out!
Reply:Hi I meet my 2 years ago on line. I am from the Uk she is from China. we are as happy as day 1, our first baby is due in just over a week,/


online dating worked for me, but like life we are all different, so try it..





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Reply:ehhh. if you are going to do it, make sure u talk to the guy on the phone, and the first time you see him in person, bring friends. you never know who is on the computer at the other end. most of the time it is the good, sweet guy u think you are talking to but you just have to be careful
Reply:How can men succeed on dating sites?





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First you have to have a reasonable profile. Profiles are only of moderate importance, but they must be truthful. No uploading phony pictures, and no filling out fake personal details, like height, marital status, etc. Try to put something funny into you profile. People love to laugh, and if they are laughing at you, they might be loving you in the near future. Maybe tell a funny story about dating, or about a hobby or interest of yours. Avoid the tired old stereotypes of putting things like "not into head games", or "looking for someone honest". 75% of all profiles on the internet have these phrases in them and it becomes very booooring very fast. Make up something creative and unique that inspires an emotional reaction, like laughter, and it will stand out amongst the crowd. If you succeed in triggering someone's emotions right off the bat, you will get noticed.





Perhaps the most difficult part is getting that initial response. It is important to hedge your bet by sending out plenty of messages, but don't spread yourself too thin. It is important to put something meaningful and personal in the message you are sending. Form letters are a big turn-off. Try saying something in response to one of the comments in her profile, but don't waste too much time writing long winded messages on first contact. Also, don't waste your time reading her whole profile. Skim it quickly, in just a few seconds, and pick out anything that obviously stands out to work with in your initial message. Ideally, the shorter the initial message the better, but make sure whatever you write is intriguing enough that she will want to hear more. Messages like "hi, how's it going?" sometimes work, but if you say something more to the effect of "your picture reminds me of olden days, do you like dancing by any chance?" is way better. The best initial message is one which refers to something she specifically mentions in her profile. For instance, if she talks about liking dogs, ask her what her favourite kind of dog is. Or if she says she likes camping, say something like "you should hear about this one time I was camping and I forgot the tent!" If you put in a reference that alludes to a longer, more interesting story that will get her interested and wanting to read more. This is much like how newspaper journalists write a "hook" in the first couple sentences of a story. Make sure that whatever you write is truthful. Liars are always found out sooner or later and that will be the end of you right then and there. Also, if you can throw in a question, which will give her an obvious starting point for a reply, so much the better. Some women are stupid and uncreative and can't figure out how to respond to open-ended messages. Always provide some direction for a response. Sending messages without a leading question will definitely lower your conversion rate.





The next step is to get a witty banter going. After her first reply you should read her profile more thoroughly. Based upon what she wrote in her profile and her initial response, you should pick up on what some of her interests are and ask about those. It is important for her to think you respect her on an intellectual and emotional level as a person, so at no point should you talk openly about anything sexual at this point. Here is where you can write a more lengthy response because you have captured her interest enough for her to make that initial connection with you. The same principles apply as with the first message. Humour is good, sex talk bad. Follow these guidelines, have a little patience, and online dating success will be yours. A good rule of thumb is, don't say anything to a person online that you wouldn't say in person, or that might get you slapped. Just because you're sitting in front of a computer screen does not mean there is not a real person out there who you are communicating with. It is just as real as if you were sitting in the room together talking.





After about half a dozen or so fairly lengthy messages back and forth, she should be feeling comfortable enough to make the next step with you. This is usually talking on the phone. Try to make a set day and time when one of you will call the other so that you will both be expecting it. Talk to her on the phone for a little while first to get comfortable at this next level. Again - ABSOLUTELY NO SEX TALK!!! I cannot stress this enough guys. Don't even hint at it as most of you aren't near clever enough to be able to pull it off and you will just end up creeping her out and lose any chance for a date. Oh and for crying out loud, PLEASE, do not EVER send pictures of your wang!





Talk to her like she's a long lost friend who you are catching up with after several years. Women like to be treated as if they are your friend, and will feel that it shows respect towards them and will respect you for it in return. During the conversation, test her resolve by hinting at that you might like to go out sometime. Say something like "so what are you up to later this week?". If she hesitates or says something to shut you down like "oh I'm busy", you've probably blown it, so give up while you are ahead. Tell her that you should probably be going now and to have a nice day. If she isn't totally creeped out by you yet, this will at least demonstrate to her that you aren't a crazy stalker freak, and it will give her time to calm down and think that maybe she overreacted and should give you a second chance. Wait for a few days and if she doesn't send you a message, test the waters by sending her an email asking how it's going. If she doesn't respond, then scratch her off the list of potentials. If she does, then you can try again starting from that point forward and trying again on the phone, but ask first before calling her again. It is always important to keep messaging several different women at once so that when one flakes out on you like this, you have several alternatives and don't have to become desperate or weird and stalker-like. Women like a guy who is aloof enough to not talk to them for a few days and then sends them a message indicating that she hasn't been forgotten.





When you finally do go out, keep it simple. Go out for coffee, a drink, dinner maybe. If you aren't much of a conversationalist try a movie or mini-putt or something distracting so that you won't feel the pressure to keep talking all the time. Once you've been out once or twice, you can step up the romance a notch by going for a walk in the park, or to a scenic spot in the area. It is at this point that you may find my next advice column to be helpful - "How to seduce a woman".








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Reply:I know several success stories. Here's my take on it; people always say it's not safe because you don't know if they are lying or not. Go into a bar. Meet someone there. They are still a stranger are they not? For all you know, they could have a criminal record and past but first impressions aren't always what they appear to be eh?





You take your chances, just like everything else in life. One good thing about it is that you get to know the person for who they are, not what they look like. Personally, I wouldn't use a dating site to find someone, just because I believe what you've been out there searching for is in your hands so to speak. Just wait and the right person will come along by chance. Do not give out any personal information until you have talked to the person for at least a while.





Most importantly, be REAL. If you don't make $100 000 a year, don't say you do. It's just like any relationship; who wants to start one off, lying?





Personally, I met a guy online just over 2 years ago now. He was a friend of a friend, and just so happened to IM me to wish me a happy birthday at the time. He's become one of my best friends and we talk every single day (both of us have mics so we use that instead of the phone). He happens to live only 1 hour away. I personally can't do long distance dating just because I need to physically be around the person otherwise I feel as if something is missing. That said, in the future, I would love to pursue something.





My point is, those who knock down others for meeting people online, they need to try it first then talk. Can't hate something you've never tried yourself.