Online dating - help me clear this confusion?

I have recently started trying online dating and exchanging messages with girls on sites like Friendster. It's resulted in a few dates, but I'm still out there looking for the right girl. The other day, I got a "smile" (through Friendster) from this girl. I usually like to set up a date right away (maybe after 2 message exchanges) - which is what I tried to do with her. But she kept replying through the messaging feature on Friendster, even though I gave her my personal email address. Then, she told me that some friends of hers had bad experiences meeting guys online, so she doesn't want to meet me in person, but wants to be a friend on friendster. I was like WTF!? Is she just being shy? Or am I doing something wrong by expecting girls to meet within 2 messages? I prefer to meet in person, ironically, for the same reason -- that I don't trust the online environment. Also, can anyone tell me other sites like Friendster where I can meet good looking, genuine girls?

Online dating - help me clear this confusion?
My friend tried out plentyoffish.com said that one worked pretty well. As for the confusion, I don't really see any here. I mean she was sort of being real with you that she only wanted to keep things on friendster, and that she wasn't really into meeting anyone other than just having chat buddies. I think and don't take this the wrong way, but your own unrealistic goal of meeting after just 2 messages, could be leading you to much disappointment in communicating with women online. I know you want a fast reaction from the other person and for them to be as pysched about meeting you so soon as you are about meeting them. But for alot of people they do not want to meet so early on like that until they really get to know the person. And I really don't see anything wrong with that. I mean what in the world can you tell about someone after just 2 messages? If you think you are saving yourself the hassle of any lies or whatever that could occur online by meeting so soon, then you are disappointing yourself yet again. Because in this technology driven world, real face to face communication still makes people nervous. So I think you would be missing out alot on who the person is because they have their gurad up and they aren't as talkative as on the computer. So I suggest getting to know the women a bit more than just two messages. I'm more than sure you won't regret it, good luck.
Reply:One of 2 things is happening here:





She's keeping ALL of her options open or maybe she likes the attention of a harem of men or she's married or involved with someone and is doing this online thing for fun.
Reply:I wouldn't hold a 2-message-then-a-meeting rule to girls, everyone is different, and you never know who you could be missing out on. Some people do just want to be online friends, while others won't mind meeting. What you could do is take your time getting to know each individual, however many messages it takes. I would continue the online dating (from the sound of it, you're doing great!) but also try going out in real-life. You'll have a great time while you're out doing whatever, and you could meet tons of cute, funny, totally cool girls! Good luck, dude.
Reply:I signed on to Wealthymingle.com on Saturday, July 14 and recieved a wink from someone that same day....I emailed him, then we began talking by phone. We hit it off so much so that we were talking daily for 2-3 hours a pop, as he was out of town on business. By the time he returned from his trip, we had banked nearly 16 hours of phone conversation. I picked him up at the airport and we both had this instant reaction....this really could be love at first site.


So good luck
Reply:I don't blame her for not wanting to meet right away. meeting offline is much more dangerous for girls. way more women get assulated then men when meeting strangers offline. she's not being shy...she's just being cautious.
Reply:Good looking and genuine? That's a tough combination. I had luck with Geek 2 Geek (www.gk2gk.com). The girls don't talk much about their looks, but they all had similar interests to mine, and that's the most important to me.