Online dating - handling too much too soon?

I have been online dating on and off for about a year. I have a first date with someone this weekend and he is very new to online dating.


We spoke yesterday for the first time for an hour, which might have set the tone for this. Well, we spoke for 30 minutes, then he called back and spoke for another 30 minutes. I like this guy and am looking forward to meeting him, however, based on my past, if there is a TON of communication prior to meeting, well, when you do meet, it kind of fizzles. Now, he is looking to talk every day along with texting. We are not meeting until saturday. I could chalk this up to that he has not done online dating before.


I can appreciate getting to know someone, however, the "too much too soon" is happening. I have been guilty of it too, but I would rather not talk to this guy before we meet. Not playing a game, just don't need to know everything. How do I tell him that we don't really need to talk anymore, prior to meeting. Without being rude or cold?

Online dating - handling too much too soon?
personally ive done the online dating thing myself.....and i am aware of the too much too soon angle.....but honestly ive come to realize that you don't have to necessarily cut him off until you meet....














of course you can the whole avoiding thing before you see him all the "ill call you back" or "im busy call me tomorrow" and things like that....











but at the same time you also have the right to control the conversation....be secretive.....men love a good mystery....."i'd rather not speak about that yet" or "ill answer that when i see you" 15 minutes a day until you see him is fine....











keep it simple....how was your day, mine was good/bad/interesting/etc.......simple things like that to where you don't have to worry about the too much too soon thing....











then again you do have wishes, and he does have to respect those.....if he can't respect your wishes then he probably doesnt need to be affiliated with you in that matter anyhow....











one other thing i'd like to point out is that online dating works to an extent but its definately better to just meet people in social environments and do the dating thing there.....











i wish you well
Reply:Just be honest. Tell him that in your experience, it's better not to build up too much of an impression of the other person before meeting in person. If he sees that as rude or cold enough to be a dealbreaker, your long-term prospects probably aren't great any way.