Online dating?

Well i met this guy on yahoo personals..hes very sweet..and im very attracted to him..we've spoken to each other for 5 or more hours every day...should i meet him?...and should I expect the worst?

Online dating?
expect the worst, when you expect the worst and things go great....it makes it all the more sweeter. If you go with high expectations, you're chances of being letdown are greater. So go meet him expecting the worst, and if things are crappy, youll get what you expected, and if things go wonderful, youll be very happy.
Reply:I'm assuming you're an adult (over 18) if you're not, then no, don't meet him, if you are then : It's up to you whether to meet him or not, just make sure that you're doing because you really want to, don't let yourself be pressured to doing anything before you're ready. Also, make sure it's in a public place with other people around (good idea to have someone you know nearby). I've always thought meeting at a coffee shop was a good idea: you can finish your coffee and leave if he's a dud or linger longer if he's not and then decide if you want to move on to a longer lasting activity. Also, make sure you leave word with someone of where you're going, who you're meeting and when you expect to get back. I also leave any contact info I have for that person somewhere that can be found if need be. DO NOT go anywhere alone with him, don't let him see your car, don't get into his car, make sure he doesn't follow you when you leave. Maybe I've watched way too many episodes of CSI, Law and Order and The Closer, but I just like to play it safe.





As for what to expect, I think it's best not to go into it expecting anything one way or the other. If you expect the worst, then you'll look for things to be wrong when they might not be. If you expect the best, you'll be disappointed or overlook important red flags. Just go expecting to meet someone you've been talking to and keep an open mind as well as opened eyes, and you should be fine. I hope it all works out!
Reply:Lol, I did that.





Met a guy, totally sweet over MSN. Met him a few times, slept with him, got engaged to him, had my heart smashed into a million pieces by him, got depressed by him.





He was very protective, but you wouldn't have got it from what he said on the internet. On the internet he was sweet and romantic. In real life he was a total wankshaft who kicked me off the bed so I had to sit on the hard floor because there wasn't enough room.





It's up to you, but I'm saying it's a bad idea.
Reply:sorry if this sounds mean but, how do you stay on the phone with someone 5 or more hours a day? do neither or you work or have lives? to me when someone has that much time on their hands it's a red flag to run in the other direction. i personally don't believe in online dating but if it floats your boat go for it. before you meet him face to face, how long have you been talking to him? if it's been less than 3 or 4 months, i would wait for at least that long. don't go alone. have someone you trust go ahead of you to the designated meeting place with a fully charged cellphone to observe and make sure nothing happens. have a "help" or "this isn't working signal". if you don't feel the chemistry, don't delay, get out fast and let him know right away.
Reply:Meet in a public place and be cautious
Reply:If you do decide to meet him, make sure it is a public place and you take a friend to watch over you from a distance. Be careful, you never know these days.
Reply:I've been there, many times. In my experience you don't know each other until you meet one another, saying that I will tell you that it's usually worth it to meet them if you're liking what's being presented so far, I say presented because what they show you in who they are isn't always what you get, sometimes it's what they want you to know, or sometimes people have false views on themselves. I say if you feel comfortable enough, meet him, but if things get weird.... you get really uncomfortable, or he's not the guy you'd thought he'd be at all, hit the eject button and get out of there! I'm not saying expect the worst or be a complete pessimist, but keep your guard up.
Reply:"Expect the best but be prepared for the worst".





Many people are meeting one another online and it seems to be working out for most of them but if you want to pursue this relationship please meet this guy on neutral territory - never at your home. Also, be sure to take a friend along with you for the sake of security just in case this guy isn't who he professes to be. I'm not trying to tarnish your hopes but you must also remain realistic because everyone in this world is not emotionally/mentally healthy. Go ahead and meet the guy if that's what you want to do but as I stated earlier "Proceed with caution".


I hope he turns out to be the man of your dreams.
Reply:well,


meet em!





if ya want to.
Reply:Online is not the way to meet people. You know how I met my girl? At the grocery Saturday at 10:00 AM. At that hour all the party girls are still asleep or hungover. Totally worked!
Reply:you never know...that's why sbd. should always risk and yes...go...


but be careful
Reply:If you think you're interested in taking the relationship further, meet him, but meet him in an open place for the first time.
Reply:If you do meet him take a friend along with you.
Reply:To be honest thats a tuff call. About 5 months ago I didnt believe in online dating at all until i met my partner i am with now. I met her online and then eventually met her in person about 3 weeks later! It was pretty scarey because you dont really know who you are going to meet no matter what you think you learned about them online! In my case i was very lucky to have met my partner, but if i were you i would be really careful! If you are attracted to this man and want to meet him just do it in a highly public place so that nothing bad could happen! Good luck to you!
Reply:No, you should not meet him.


You don't know him.


You know what he chooses to tell you.


You know what might be a mask.


personally, I think it's a stupid idea to get involved with relationships on line.


I've done it before and I know now how much of a bad idea it is.


You don't know this guy.


Don't do it.


for your own personal saftey.


find someone in reality.
Reply:Online dating is not my cup of tea, sorry. I've had some friends who have had terrible experiences with it.





The internet is a world of deception.





If you want to meet him in real life, take some people with you and do it in a public place.
Reply:you';ve got to be careful with that stuff
Reply:you should meet him and don't expect the worst
Reply:theres a 50 / 50 chance..


you could fall in love with him, and things could be amazing


but then again.......


he could be a creeper and try raping or killing you.





watch out.





your best bet is to meet at a PUBLIC place.


like McDonalds or something. The mall is too big of a place. Meet at even Starbucks or something so that nothing goes wrong. But bring along atleast 2 other people. Also, make sure he doesnt know exactly where you live, he doesnt know your car, and you meet around 30 minutes ATLEAST away from your house.





Dont want any bad things happening..


good luck!!
Reply:I f you think you should meet him go ahead but be warned its easy to lie over the computer about yourself....but he may not e....so yea you probably should
Reply:OK... if u never seen him b4- that is bad... how can he be sweet if you have never even hugged him b4? No offense but i think you should be VERY careful. Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomforatable. If you decide to meet him... take at least 3 of your VERY good friends that you would trust with ur life. Good Luck... and well unhappily i have met a guy over the enternet and he had me thinkin he was a flippin god and i met him he was 23 and he weighed at least 300 pounds so i am serious he could squash u if ur not careful that is why you ned 3 friends instead of one... Good Luck again...
Reply:sure meet him but in a public place during the day and dont expect anything just go meet him and see what happens if you dont click then be honest with him im guessing that you have had bad luck in the past so just take things slooooooooooooooow alot of guys are just lookin for a hook up so no hankie pankie that way you will know if hes really intrested
Reply:Meet him but make sure you either take someone with you and meet in a public place to be safe.
Reply:wait until you feel comfortable when you meet him


make sure that somebody knows that you're meeting up.. maybe someone can secretly come with you i.e. you'd pretend like you don't knkow each other and they'd just watch you.. it's not that weird to do that.. it's safe!


and obviously do it in public


and yes expect the worst :).. u have nothing to lose that way!
Reply:expect the best and prepare for the worst in ANY situation. I personally would meet up in a crowded place - like a coffee shop ,if you have to meet - just so that it's safe.Always be safe- good luck!
Reply:Sure, go meet him. Pick someplace public. I have met some nice guys on yahoo personals - none of them have been perverts, freaks or weirdos. They have all been really good guys. Good luck.
Reply:well, you never know what to wait for...


Personally, I met my fiance on the internet and we are getting married this coming year!! I feel very lucky that I met him and I'm so much in love with him!! I believe that if something is meant to be, then nothing can stop it!


Good luck and take care!!
Reply:Go meet him, but take someone with you.


There is always a chance that he is a stalker.


The chance is small, but still there.
Reply:I'd meet him, as long as it was in a public place or with a friend.
Reply:Go ahead but meet him in a safe, public place with some friends nearby (within sight). You don't have to expect the worst, just be aware of it. Maybe I should ask how old you are. Don't try it if you aren't an adult.

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