Online Dating--Do and Don't?!?

I joined an online dating service recently. I've been told that I'm an "8" on a scale from 1-10 but I'm not very photogenic. I saw a very attractive guy with an excellent profile so I emailed him. We virtually had the same things in common. He viewed my profile but he didn't respond back. I think he saw my picture and said "No Way!" Now, I feel silly for even joining the service. So:


#1--Do you think that he focused more on the picture than what we had in common?


#2--Should I just forget the online dating scene and just go to places where men hang out?

Online Dating--Do and Don't?!?
Ofcourse he focused on the picture sweety he is after all a MAN! Secondly you should not fell silly at all had you not taken the chance you wouldnt have known the outcome and there will be men to respond. Should you forget onlie dating I dont know, I tried it a few times met alot of frogs and met my best male friend as well as my husband (but met him in a chat room). You should however get out of the house and go meet ppl not everyone is on the net and sometimes ppl when they can see you face to face are more willing to talk then if they see a "photo" sports bars are a pretty good place to hang out more men then women...just an idea
Reply:1. i have no idea


2. yes! online dating is unsafe. if you ever do end up meeting someone in person that you met online, always make sure that you bring a friend and go to a crowded place. the last thing you want is be raped or killed.
Reply:Why do u want someone who isnt attracted to you, to like you?


Just because THEY dont think your hot, doesnt mean your NOT hot.. because everyone has different taste.. and sadly... attraction is just as important as clicking personalities.


Sad story but dont give up on online dating if u prefer that choice. Many people meet and it works out great.
Reply:dont let one reaction ruin somthing that could help your find wht your looking for. one mans trash is anothers treasure.
Reply:No, i have heard many gr8 reports about dating services. I haven't tried because I'm paranoid I'll meet a freak of some sort. You can't judge a book by its cover huh?


# 1 question. Men are very visual creatures. Do you have a digital camera? Take heaps of pictures looking in different angles different light, then choose the best picture from them.


Keep trying with him if you want, but i would email him and ask him out. Do the face to face thing that way he will get to know the real you, not some idea of you from a picture.


Good luck!
Reply:don't do online dating!!!!!!!!! the person ur tryin to reach will either want or not want to go out w/ u for all the wrong reasons!!! when u physically meet people and they get to know u and u get to know them, thats when a relationship can have a healthy start and begin to grow. a picture and paragraph just won't cut it sweetie!
Reply:dont online date. you dont know if you're talking to a rapist or not.
Reply:well, we dont know what is on his mind, the only clear thing is that he is not interested to you, because here on net,wether any kind of online dating, you can get response easily and you can really assess easily if you attract men or not. if so when there's a lot of message you get, it means they like you and if only few it means only few also attracts with you. and it is sad to say that most people here depend on picture that you posted. but dont lose hope, your just being so sensitive. nevermind that guy, just think of this way, he is not a good catch anyway, who knows he is just a poser. or he is not really have a nice personality. you can meet diffirent types or people here, so very careful. just try again some online daiting here. what i want to say is.. just be friendly. good luck
Reply:I would go for #3





Change dating services and try one with real people who are honest and open.





I used this one http://www.thesinglesbar.web-dating.net





And its where I met my wife, shes stunning (she still wont tell me why she ever used an online service) and well I am very average. But we took it slowly and spent time getting to know each other before we met. I think my Scottish accent had something to do with it cos she is American.





Good Luck and dont give up!!
Reply:Hi Ms. Pisces,


No, don't stop just bcos of one jerk!!!





I know what it's like, when I was a bit younger, one guy made me feel like cr*p about myself. The Dating Game is a big one, you need to thicken up your skin so that these types of guys don't upset you.





In my life, I've found that really good looking guys can be arrogant (not always of course) and can really hurt sensitive girls feelings - it's just not right. Life, love and dating are just so much more than that. There are two sites that I really think you should check out, one of them is letters4love and the other one is a free online dating site.





#1 -- Who cares, he's not worth thinking about. You are who you are, whether he likes it or not


#2 -- No, a lot of guys will just be looking to hook-up, at least online you might be able to communicate at a deeper level first, choose some candidates and then go out and meet them.





Good luck girl!


xoxo
Reply:I've been on numerous online sites to see what kind of women are attracted to me. And after extensive (and years) of research, the results were quite interesting on what type of women are attracted to me. but the online dating sites need to be taken all with a grain of salt. Everybody out there has different preferences on what they like in a person. I prefer a certain type of woman, but most of my girlfriends are not what I prefer, so it's different for different folks. I wouldn't think of quitting the service because of one guy. I take it serious, but on the other hand, I don't. Plus there are lots of pictures out there that aren't really who they say they are, kind of like in real life, huh?





With online dating sites, the one thin I do like is that you're kind of forced to communicate and get to know each other before actually meeting someone face to face. A picture is only that, an image frozen before you. To get to know that person, you're going to have to communicate with them for a bit. That forces you to get to know them first, if it works, great. If it doesn't, press on.
Reply:Forget online dating. It's good in the sense that you connect on a more personal level before sex can ruin it, but at the same time when you connect that well you eventually get driven insane. It's good to have differences and not always get along. Anyway, don't do it.
Reply:Give it a little more time if you still have time left on your subscription if you had to pay. Email some more people. At the end of your subscription, don't renew if you do not get any replies you like.
Reply:second one is much better but sometimes online also is not at all bad idea...





its all upto u....how and which way u like to date.but in my opinion,,,,,,online 50% and 50% is for man hangout places so that u will have solid fun.
Reply:1, probably not. have u tried contacting him again? if he still doesnt reply. then forget about him. u don't need someone as judgemental as that as a date.


2. its up to you. some ppl prefer online dating than meeting ppl.