Why are girls so fearful of online dating?

I once thought that online dating would catch on big time! But where I live in Essex (England, UK), the girls who I work with consider online dating to be too risky! Why is this so?





Now I know what you're thinking...If I work with 3 girls (who are quite good-looking) why do I need online dating?





...simple...they've both got boyfriends (One of them is actually getting married as well)!


This has led me to turn to online dating...but so far I've had few responses. Could it be that girls are scared of online dating?





If so why? What's the worst that can happen? If you take precautions and meet up with a guy in a crowded place...what's the problem?? Besides...most guys aren't pervets or serial rapists like the media make out! Most of them are decent guys like me who just want a nice girl to settle down with!


Also, based on my experience of online dating...why do soooo many girls list 'LONG HAIR' as thier biggest TURN-OFF? I personally haven't got long hair...but I'm curious

Why are girls so fearful of online dating?
Personally, I wouldn't use online dating as it smacks of desperation. Ladies are brought up to be wooed by men not pursue them and I suppose putting yourself forward like that seems a bit distasteful - like putting yourself on a supermarket shelf for people to look at and judge. You have already mentioned the safety factor - while I am sure you are a thoroughly decent chap there are nutters out there. There are many alternatives to online dating that I would be prepared to try before I would do that. The long hair thing wouldn't bother me though.





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Reply:Girls are likely flirty and playful but still they have their own conservativeness and fears. You must be a friend to her first and make her 100% comfortable before you set a schedule to meet her.





Girls have a first impression to a men with long hair really have problems with their attitudes and they only express it with their hair.





But I'm sure if you let them know u first they will be the first one to invite u to meet. Good luck!!!
Reply:It can be risky as you dnt the other person and we get scared incase they r sum kind of perv!! Also hw do we kw that the pics beingput up are a true picture of the man and there are so many terrible things happening today we wudnt want to put ourselves in danger just in case.
Reply:Girls are afraid of online dating becase;





1. Men lie about everything ( Women do, too, so they know)


2. There are predators online. Women don't find out until its too late that they've found one.


3. Women get raped and killed.





Enough reasons for you?
Reply:I personally think it is too risky, but it has taken off quite a bit in my opinion. I mean, I'm constantly hearing stories about internet love matches. And, there are ads all over the web for dating services. I'm married, but if I weren't it would take a lot for me to turn to the web to find a date.





Even if you take precautions on where you meet someone, you still don't know who you are going to get. If you don't like who the person is in real life, you are potentially stuck in an uncomfortable situation.





About the long hair, not really sure why it is commonly on the turn off list, but it is kind of out of style. When I think of a guy with long hair, I'm thinking 80's hairbands or old school Michael Bolton. Not a really cool trend right now, but long haired guys may make a come back!





Anyway, happy trails, hope it helped.
Reply:they are a lot of weirdo's online and on top of that a person might lie that they are good looking when they are the world's ugliest person...spare me the drama
Reply:Girls are afraid. You never know who is out there.Also you can't meet a pereson online.
Reply:because on the internet anyone can be anyone. get it? you could so say dat u look like tom cruise but instead your a 40 year old wif no job, sitting infront on de computer all day,eatin chips. dey dont want to get lured by these "predators" dey dont want to get hurt. we as women are the weaker ones so some men like to take advantage. you'll never know what may happen even if you meet him/her at a crowded place. there are plenty of cases about these online predators. you could check it out.
Reply:What a question! Don't you have a younger sister? Would you like her to go on an online dating site?
Reply:The thing about on line dating is that you should remember it is just that, an on line thing. Lots of people hide behind their computers and give you a complete different picture to what they really are.





It is important to have a good profile to attract responses, for example you should have a photo - photos attract 50% more response.





Don't lie on line and trust your instinct, always meet up in a public place and be honest.





If you stick by these rules you will find someone, also don't set your expectations too high, hot popular girls are not going to sit in front of their computers all day looking for a guy.





Best of luck
Reply:the worst that can happen is to be killed. i also think that online dating is risky...well, poor guys haha...im sure there are courageous girls too but its hard finding them. many girls need time to believe in an other person and until they want to get closer with someone (and I think online dating isnt a good place to get closer)...its a long time...but be hopeful, im sure there is one girl waiting for you ;)
Reply:because of all the hype about all these rapists and peados on the Internet and they think that every bloke on the Internet that they talk to is going to rape them if they meet them. It annoys me greatly. They like to stereotype everybody because they have been fed loads of rubbish by the police and news.
Reply:I am afraid of meeting physco-freaks. I've been lucky, I only met them all online and that's where it ends for me.
Reply:I have been living common law for nearly 8 years. My partner, admits he goes on the dating sites "just to see what is out there". He gets angry because he says all the women look for is how much you earn.





How does the female on the other end know who she is talking too. I have seen how he describes himself. He says he is divorced, good looking, a lot taller than he is .


He is 57. Doesn't give his right address, and looks for 18 years and up. No I do not approve of his actions, nor appreciate it.





I have a son who met his wife on the internet. He was one of the lucky ones. He couldn't have a better wife and they have been married 8 years.





So I am not saying all the men are bad on there, but I know of one who is, and he is a pervert in real life too, and I am sure there a millions of others and how can you tell when you meet them on line. No matter how long you talk to them they can make themselves out to be Mr Wonderful when in reality they are just looking to see where they can "score" to boost their ego's.





Long hair, most decent females see males with short hair as being usually decent guys, although once again it is not always true. . Usually if they care about their hair, they care about their appearance and what people think about them, not what they think about themselves.
Reply:as for long hair scare:maybe they think you will be unemployed!


just like so many men want girls to have long hair! what is wrong with gals with short hair?
Reply:Because you might be talking to a sex-mad pervert..
Reply:Girls are not fearful of online dating, they are fearful of disappointment.





We (ladies) tend to romanticize a lot, this also involes you (the online datee). Unfortunately for the guys, this means that we often get disappointed with the real deal.





Long hair is nasty on a man. Very 'Cuban drug lord', and I have yet to find a man with clean long hair.
Reply:girls are so fearful of online dating cause if ugo to meet the person you have been communicating with he could turn out to be some random rabid axe wielding rapist. They have a fair point.
Reply:all of my girlfriends who have tried it say that they've only met idiots and predators. my guy friends who've tried it have said they've either had pretty good luck, or met desperadoes!





BTW I love long hair on guys, its all about personal tastes. I would never do online dating because meeitng someone through friends generally means less chance of idiots or predators. I would happily stay single rather than date online.
Reply:Most people pretend to be something they aren't to attract people online. You get the Ms.Universe picture to drool over for months, and then you meet what looks to be her mother-in-law.


Also, you never know that the guy you meet in that 'safe' crowded place doesn't slip you a roofie and pretend you're just drunk to lead you away.


Then, there's nothing like looking in the other person's eyes to tell if you have chemistry. I'd rather meet the person in real life.
Reply:my partner and i met online though i think there are a good deal of ppl who pretend to be something they r not over the net which is extremely easy to do though if you come across someone who you hit it off with i think eventually at some point you's would meet up ,though i do think its the whole pervert sexually deviant kind that put some women off the whole internet experience though other happy to sift thru xrap and take a chance as for the long hair more a personal hygiene issue perhps someone with short hair is probable more presentable and clean cut which in turn carries over into other aspects of life
Reply:Its not natural to woman. It requires that she put herself out there. For thousands of years woman have been trained to be mysterious and let men approach them, then reveal themselves slowly. Also woman don't like the idea of men advertising themselves. It denotes a lack of confidence in the process and unromantic. Woman want men to just approach them.
Reply:they r sooo confident because they can make up stuff and you wont really know
Reply:Coz people may not be who they claim to be. I mean, I could go into some chatroom and pose as a handsome 23yo male, 185cm tall, GSOH..... if I wanted to. I'd have to learn how to type like a guy first tho... lol
Reply:i have used online dating in the past - in the early days.. it was great fun..and you could pick and choose exactly who you wanted to meet.





I would do it again if i ever needed to..





I think women just feel they should be extra careful.





As for long hair - in my opinion i prefer bald or short hair, it looks cleaner. Long hair can be a turn off if its unkept ect...
Reply:Im not fearful of online dating, ive met up with around 7 people online, and i dont see a problem with it.. everytime i met someone i took a friend with me so that there was two of us and we met up at the cinema or something.





I think many women just feel scared that the guy will not be who they think, and drag tehm off somewhere... i dont know.
Reply:Their fears is you might be dating someother girls as well.So try dating her offline as well.As for long hair that doesn't count if you are a good campaigner.Women are moved by their ear gate unlike men.
Reply:Because there are a lot of weirdo,s out there
Reply:Simple. the fact that you have no idea who someone you might find yourself interested online really is. Electronic stalkers and predators use the internet probably more than anyone. Their victims range of age has been known to be from children of 12(on average, some have been younger) to someone in their mid 40's. Some of these people don't care what gender their victims are, but primarily women are more common to be victims.





I'm from the US, but this kinds of people can be everywhere. Police reports in the my local newspaper(normally just stating who got DUI's and stuff) indicated the last person to be a victim of sexual assault was 48, female, she is a senior housing nurse. She was attacked in broad daylight, while the house's owner away at the local physician.





You just cant be too careful of who you meet online. even if they appear to be who they say they are.





It is better to date someone you have met in your own area. It's just easier.





as far as the long hair, I can only say that it's just the preferance of the ladies' profiles that you have gone through..





Hoped this Helped
Reply:Cos you could be this really ugly ******, and they would never know, unless you send a picture, and also, your'e a total stranger, how do expect them to trust you?
Reply:If a guy has a past he doesn't want someone to know about where does he go? On line dating


If a guy doesn't have a friend or an acquaintance who will set him up with a date? On line dating


If a guy just wants to meet a girl for a quickie no strings attached where does he go? On line dating


If a guy has sexual appetites he doesn't want his friends or family to know about where does he go? On line dating


If a guy is looking for a woman to be his sugar mama where does he go? On line dating

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