Online dating?

Are you for or against it? Please explain.

Online dating?
For it. But, it would not be something I would normally do. But because of the type of job I have, I never could meet men. So, I opted to try the internet. You have to be careful, and spend time getting to know people. But it can be a lot of fun meeting new people. I did end up meeting my current husband through Match.com and we are both very very happy that we were able to meet this way. I would definitely be "for" it. But it should be used with some intelligence when meeting people for the first time. When I say this, it is because a certain amount of men and women are what I would call "professional daters". They aren't really in it for a relationship but just to date/intimacy without strings attached. So, one has to find out what other people are looking for and see if it matches what you want too.
Reply:Both. I've been in an online relationship. The problem was we thought we REALLY knew each other before we started online dating. We really didn't. We knew each others political parties, but not the REAL politics. We knew each other's ethics and morals in a vague way, but not what each other REALLY BELIEVED.





So, it didn't work, but don't give up hope. If you're considering online dating, please keep it within your country, and preferably, within your state. If you wanna date someone in another state online, the online thing that'll be on your mind will be, "When am I ever gonna meet this person?!" etc.





You're kinda depressed about it all. If you live with your parents and your parents forbid online dating, then it really will be hard to disguise it from them, even if you're usually excellent at hiding stuff from your parents.





Trust me. I've been in this situation. If you've heard their voice and seen a little clip of them or a lot of pics, and can confirm their age, etc, then I'm PROBABLY for it. There are always exceptions though that you've got to be aware of. You've got to be concentrated on your daily life, so you can't slip too much.





When you start online dating, you'll also talk less with your friends; they'll more or less drift away. BOTTOM LINE, if you plan on online dating, you should be able to safely meet in a public place within a year or two. Otherwise, you'll go completely INSANE!!!





Also, know their politics / religion / ethics / morals / thoughts / feelings, before you say YES or NO to online dating. Though religion and politics are the so-called FORBIDDEN subjects, you must know about them!





I'd suggest not looking for an online relationship. When I got into one, I hadn't planned it AT ALL! I was looking for someone close to me that I had feelings for. It just happened! And it was great when it lasted, but I knew it just would NEVER work, sadly.
Reply:Both. It's difficult. Online dating goes against the natural order of things. Normally, it should go like this: man and woman meet, feel spark. Start talking and discover commonalities. Go out. Online dating is just the opposite: man and woman talk, find commonalities. Start to like each other. Meet. Discover they have absolutely no chemistry. This is where the difficulties lie. Physical attraction ("spark") is essential in a budding relationship. When you're involved in online dating, you have to go through the whole exhausting "computer courtship - phone call - initial meeting" thing with a BUNCH of people before you find what you're looking for. With that being said, online dating is a good way to meet/screen people if you're not into the whole bar scene like I'm not.